In Confessions of a Winning Poker Player, Jack King said, "Few players recall big pots they have won, strange as it seems, but every player can remember with remarkable accuracy the outstanding tough beats of his career." Seems true to me. 'Cause walking in here, I can hardly remember how I built my bankroll, but I can't stop thinking of how I lost it.
Mike McDermott in Rounders
Mike (played by Matt Damon) was referring to poker beats, but I think the concept is also applicable to crushing defeats suffered by sports team for which you emotionally pull. I am not talking about “garden variety” losses in big games, but rather those last-minute snatches of defeat from the jaws of victory that just sting so deeply.